There is such a divide between men/women and how we think and what we look for from each other. And my marriage is no different from most out there when it comes to a tired stay at home(homeschooling 3 different grade levels) mom/wife and a workaholic husband/father. What I have realized is how to make myself SEXY to my wife…
And I am going to share what I have found out and hope that you can take my list and maybe compare it to some areas in your marriage to possibly trigger some answers for you to stay sexy to your spouse.
Disclaimer: I met my wife more than 25 years ago and just got to this point last week. So if it takes time that is okay. Keep finding blogs like this one and you will be fine. OK Here goes…
The 7 things I can do to INSTANTLY become sexy to my wife!!!
1. Give my kids a bath- I am not sure why but this is a winner…everytime. While living in DC I thought this worked because it meant I was home by a certain hour but it is just the bathing that gets her. Tonight I actually gave my 16 month old daughter a bath. This happened while I was lying next to the tub with my big boot from my torn achilles tendon. No excuses! And I even threw in a shampoo of her hair for a tip. Extra Sexy is always good!
2. Change a poopy diaper- Now I know my buddy www.thisdaddysblog.com hates doing this and talks about how gross it is all day long, but it is gross for her too. So I just focus on how sexy I am going to look to my wife when I am done.
3. My wife is not a flower/candy person so the number 3 thing I have discovered as a sure winner for King Sexy in my house is allowing my wife a trip to the gym with a 4 hour nap when she returns home. Yes, this works every time. And if I take the girls to SixFlags and everyone is sleep when we get home. I can promise you…(well…this is an clean show…as long as the computer is open it is)
4. Another discovery of mine that automatically throws me in the Denzel category is cleaning the entire house when my wife thinks I don’t have time. If she leaves me home with the girls and I bribe them to let me clean and she is super surprised when I have done everything she was going to do upon her return. Now she just so happens to have so extra time on her hands…What’s a girl to do?
5. The fifth thing positive action that will transform me into the sexy husband I was when we got married is noticing the upgrades. If I notice her eyebrow threading, or pedicure….BAM!!
6. The next to last item on the red carpet to sexy list is noticing everything she does for the house to run smoothly. Notice how I would not trade job with her and how a stay at home mom (especially a homeschooling one) has the hardest job on the planet. I went through a period where I did not understand this. I thought well if your not working…then I realized. Well, not by design. I got left for a week with the kids when my wife was out of town. And on her last night she got stuck in DC because it was raining. I was nicely telling my wife to FIND A FLIGHT HOME! I will never forget that week and how bad I wanted her to come home.
7. This one will be in the book, but I think you have enough of my list to make your own. Just read her mind. If you have been married for longer than 30 minutes she will expect you to and if you have known her for longer than an hour ….you should be able to…so she thinks. Hey! That’s why I married someone I met at 15…I knew a little bit.
I hope my list helps you guys to create your own. Remember what works for your buddies wife may not work for yours…but the fun part is doing your homework(key word) and STRIKING!! And when you strike…You will know it.
Thanks for stopping,