I presented this question on my Facebook page over the weekend and it did not turn out like I had expected. Send me a friend request at Michael J. Covin(don’t forget the period) to see the responses.
Let me begin…
I love to present issues I believe need addressing. I am not attempting to get permission for anyone to CHEAT!! (make sure you read that last sentence again…out loud if needed)
There are several of us dealing with challenges in our marriages and attempting to navigate to a successful outcome. Many married couples are dealing with overcoming infidelity in their marriage and are finding it very challenging.
First let’s define CHEATING as it pertains to this posting.
CHEATING in this post is going to be defined as sexual intercourse with someone other than your spouse. (I do realize that there are other actions that can be defined as cheating but for this post we will use this definition) (UGH! OK for those of you who are asking. In my marriage, if your spouse doesn’t know about your actions…that is defined as cheating)(now back to our post)
It is amazing to me how many of us give a response to this question that sounds like when we were just in the dating world.
Examples taken directly from Facebook responses:
1. Yes. (Period)
2. Depends on if MAGNANIMITY exist in the relationship along with strong community support
3. Yes. Always
4. as 4 me, it is definitely a deal breaker
5. YES, IT CHANGES THE WHOLE RELATIONSHIP,IT DEMEANS,DE GRADE AND DESTROYS…..LISTEN TO ELTON JOHN…SACRIFICE
6. we don’t marry until death do we part….it is until real life happens we part…
Of course there were several other responses but it seemed like the women were a sure…I AM HITTING THE ROAD! (So fellas…You have been warned)
These responses were disturbing to me because I like to know the answer to the question: How did we get here?
And I feel if you don’t ask and find the answer to that question you could very well find yourself in the next marriage and at the same point for the exact same reason. I am not saying cheating is okay but when people continue to have conversations in their heads and not speak to their spouse about what they are thinking…
Confusion and thus cheating happens.
I really need your help on this one, because we are all human and I am not feeling the human side to some of these responses. I know I present it like I have all the answers but I am stumped on this one.
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