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Temptation The Movie: “Let’s Get the Party Started!”


Interior of a Movie Theater

So FINALLY, there is a chance to get to a Tyler Perry movie in the the most important first week and I could not wait. Making sure to get out of the office on time. Leaving at 5:01 for a 6:30pm showing and sure enough, needing every minute to get through that Washington, DC traffic…UGH…2013 opening day baseball. Surely, selecting the theatre that is directly past the Nationals traffic would be the thing to do. But since they were picked by Sports Illustrated and ESPN to win the World Series this year, I guess getting used to them blocking up traffic. I think I saw Brett Brocki yelling from the top of a limo at the Channel 8 New Crew too! (Some things are never surprising) Maybe they will get to block it in an organized way….You know…with a PARADE!!! I went from day one to the parade.

Sorry, that is how my mind works sometimes.

Well, anywho. Arriving just in time to pay for my ticket electronically and walk past everyone waiting in line and have my ticket taken by the guy who was workng the cash booth was a sweet deal. I know I am not the avid movie goer but why do people not use the machine to purchase their tickets? Someone please comment and let me know what is better about waiting in line.

So being able to shoot around one line was definetly a highlight for Mr. Impatient…only to wish there was a way to make my own popcorn and drink. Especially since my popcorn rivals any movie theatre when home with the G-Unit. Normally doing a huge bucket of popcorn and a soft drink doesn’t appeal to my but not being a frequent visitor leads me to believe I have to enjoy the entire blockbuster experience. The only challenge is that the line at the concession stand is super long and though there are 19 screens only two lanes are open. I guess they thought everyone would not be coming until later. Maybe they were aware of the traffic and scheduled everyone to come in for the 7:30 viewing of Temptation, by the marketing genius, Tyler Perry.

Well, eventually my popcorn and drink were aquired and was even able to actually have the manager hold it for me while I visited the restroom. Didn’t want any need to leave this show and miss a very important scene and be lost the rest of the film.

So I am in and the film starts and there she is KIM KARDASHIAN!!! And if you want to know how she did in her debut with Tyler Perry, she was a great actress. The only challenge is she was not really acting. She was playing herself. A fashion hungry, nametag pushing girlfriend who like dresses so TIGHT you are not able to breathe and cringes at the sight of a woman in flats. Seems normal enough for her to pull off.

Then there is the eye candy for the women. Yes, going directly to the gym trying to compete with Lance, who in the first hour shows his chest and abs 4 times and I am not sure of the other guys name(some reviewer I am huh) but he has a nice chest as well and was showing it on his runs through the park.

Then there was Vanessa Williams, with a bad French accent, who owns a millionare matchmaking service. Brandy, who works in a pharmacy(took everything for me not to type drug store) and the star young lady who I don’t know her name either(there I go again) who is married to Lance and is as dry as they come.

Now for the layout of the land for this magnificent plot. A one bedroom studio apartment and the matchmaking office.

There you have the first hour of the film Temptation! The slowest, dryest first hour of a blockbuster movie ever.

Someone needs to tell Tyler Perry to put the energy that he puts into marketing a movie into actually making it worth pushing. You do not have an hour to get my attention. I walked out and got my money back. And that was my excitement for the night, because the manager said I was 4 minutes past her cutoff. (another post on that, but you all know I got my money)

Don’t worry. I will go see it with my wife so I can give you a full review, but I just had to show you by starting slow in my post that you have to GET THE PARTY STARTED MR PERRY!! People don’t like things dragging out and that is what Temptation does.

DRAG. I rate the first hour a 0 on a scale of 1-10. Oh, my bad, it did motivate me to put down my popcorn and drink and hit the gym and for that it gets a 2.

More where this came from…


In my opinion, he needs to stick to stage plays. That way when there are errors in production we can’t rewind the videos and catch it.


“Launching first book in 2013!”


Attractive Woman with Her Books











In case you were wondering….

I have not been silenced by the Powers that Be, but I have actually been preparing for a HUGE 2013!  A year that will start with the launch of my first book.  I have met with my writing coach, who you can follow on Twitter at @karenbowlding, and she has given me the green light to as she put it…”Get off my BuTT.”

I kinda hang with people who will keep it real for me.  It’s the only way you are going to get my attention.  So she has gotten it and the writing is coming right along.  I will begin to have time for blogging again so you guys will be seeing post from both my wife and I.  (I did not get that last sentence approved before typing it, but I hope she gets the HINT)

So as it is scheduled currently the release date will be March 2013 and trust me…..IT WILL BE ON!

Thanks for your support,




41 Minutes to a NEW MARRIAGE!


Marriages are taking a hit and we are always super honest with our readers.  This week has been rough in my home and I am not sure why marriages are going through such a tough time currently. I am receiving inbox messages on Facebook with prayer requests.  We are hearing about separations that are shocking and rocking us to the core.  There are close friends of ours that are losing sleep because of emergency visits to others, wonderful couples with beautiful children that are currently discussing divorce and a few that we have already lost to divorce.

What I have realized is my marriage has a global purpose and when we have these rough times it is a smoke screen to prevent  my wife and I from grasping something HUGE and sharing it with our community.  It is a distraction to make us believe that maybe this blog was created for fun and laughs only and not to change and impact the lives of those around us.

Well we made it through the smoke screen and I would like to share what I would like to call the ‘Crossfit of Marriage’. What I am about to share with you will challenge all your marriage muscles in one workout and you will be done in less than an hour.   This information packs such a punch that it left me in tears when I first viewed it.  It is a series that you should catch but if you know you will only watch one portion, that is okay.  I have given you that one video.   If you have a spouse who will only sit still for one, here it is.  This is for the Non-Christian or the Christian.  Enough already!!  I present to you:

41 Minutes to a new marriage!!


p.s. Special thanks to Andy Stanley and family of  We also are enjoying his book Principals of the Path.

Dwayne Wade is losing the “TRUE CHAMPIONSHIP”


As many of you know we are about family and honoring the vows made before God.  As much as I love my children, I believe the BEST God has for my family is to remain as one unit.  It hurts my heart to see how the WIFE of Dwayne Wade, of the Miami Heat is talked about because she is hurting due to having to watch her husband and children parade around during the NBA Championship with THE OTHER WOMAN.

I NEED YOU ALL TO UNDERSTAND THIS!!! Gabrielle Union is THE OTHER WOMAN.  Dwayne Wade has a WIFE! He took a vow to Siohvaughn Funches-Wade and the world is giving her a bad rap.  She was arrested the weekend of Father’s Day after refusing to allow the couples sons to be picked up by Wade’s sister.

Dwayne Wade made the following statement:

“Once again, S.L. has used our minor children as the proverbial pawns in this contentious dissolution of marriage action. This court must take action to protect our minor children from further exposure to the present environment S.L. creates while they are in her care and preventing S.L. from exercising her parenting time in a manner that is harmful to our children.

The minor children have been subjected to great deal of drama/trauma as a result of S.L.’s conduct.”

It is amazing how we continue to label fathers as CHAMPIONS for having the movie star girlfriend, even when it involves leaving his wife who has been by his side for years,  or driving a shiny Bentley, which doesn’t make you a REAL MAN.  When will we realize that the TRUE CHAMPIONS are the men who honor the quotes we made to God over the Cook County court system?

Remember this Dwayne:

“I love you, Siovaughn  and I know that God has ordained this love. Because of this I desire to be your husband. Together we will be vessels for His service in accordance with His plan, so that in all areas of our life Christ will have the pre-eminence. Through the pressures of the present and the uncertainties of the future, I promise to be faithful to you. I promise to love, guide, and protect you as Christ does His Church, and as long as we both are alive. According to Ephesians 5 and with His enabling power, I promise to endeavor to show to you the same kind of love as Christ showed the Church when He died for her, and to love you as a part of myself because in His sight we shall be one.”

The couple has a court date set for June 26, 2012 and I will be praying for the restoration of the family.  I believe the AA community needs to see this happen in a major way and THAT will be the World Championship for my community.

I just wonder if Essence Magazine would cover this as an example of REAL BLACK LOVE.  One that involves MARRIAGE!


The missing relationship in “Think Like a Man”


Congratulations to “Think Like a Man” for taking over the box office for several weeks and allowing us to all laugh at the movie which many said actually passed the King of Comedy crown to actor and  narrator, Kevin Hart. It was impossible to depart from the movie and not know that he carried the production from the first scene till the conclusion.   It is always great to be able to laugh at our relationships and still grow from our mistakes.

The character played by Kevin Hart was just one of the relationships highlighted during the relationship movie that was to give legs to the New York Best Selling Book by Steve Harvey (written by D. Millner of

It took a few weeks for my wife and I to find time to enjoy the feature and it was much different from what I expected of the film following the blockbuster book.  Once able to view the film and the different depictions of relationships I immediately noticed what was missing.

With all the different flavors of men in the book there was only one from the film that was NOT FEATURED!

The only relationship that was not allowed any depth was the man who helped out in the home, who supported his family, who checked in regularly and who was not afraid to speak positively  about his relationship around the guys. And some may notice that this role was given to a white actor. Hmmmm.

His reward in the film:  We never see his woman or get a chance to hear or feel the most positive relationship in the featured film.  In my opinion, this was the major loss in “Think Like A Man” and was THE MISSING LINK RELATIONSHIP.


What is the #1 Question Singles should ask before marriage?


I would like to thank you all for visiting our site during this March Madness Blogging Series.  Today we (meaning me) will present the #1 question Singles should be asking before marriage.

After much research(HA) and doing a survey of millions of Singles(:) ) we (again…meaning me) have come to the following conclusion…

How many times a week should you expect to have sex with your spouse?

This is the question that I…I mean… we believe should be discussed but it is not currently.

The reasons are because the #1 need of the man is INTIMACY and the #1 need of the woman is SECURITY and this causes a misconnect.  So with the needs being different, issues are caused when this is not discussed and agreed upon. To my knowledge it is never discussed.

My wife and I sit down with couples who are thinking about engagement/marriage and I have never spoken to one couple who has had this discussion.

Not dealing with this question causes so many issues down the road that could be discussed before challenges arise in a marriage.  Dealing with it brings up so many other issues that  may not come up until later in the marriage but allows the couple to address them early.

There are many questions and discussions to have concerning marriage but this question is the #1  Question and often gets missed and really needs to be addressed before a couple gets married and more problems start than normal.


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Do we take the Easy or Hard road?


Happy 1 year anniversary: ReMix and it is still relevant!

I just received an amazing article from a friend…am I wrong if I say she is white?  Well I have spoken to her and she is okay with me saying it…so you just get over it.  We actually were sharing with each other about raising children and I said something that sparked her memory and she promised she would send me a copy of the article…AND SHE DID! (I told you she was white)…Some of you guys need to learn to laugh a little and get over yourself.  I am not a racist!  Quick…Who do I sound like?

There I go again…off the subject.

Well back to the lecture at hand.  So the article is awesome.  If I did not think she would read this I would just retype it and take credit for it…Naw because I have to add my 2 cents.  But the question at hand…….Why is life so tough?

The answer is…….

It’s not! For most of us, it is very simple…EASY EVEN.  Because we take the easy way out.  Here are a few examples:

Spending is easy, Saving is hard.

Cheating is easy, Faithful is hard.

Public school is easy, Homeschooling is hard.

Sex is easy, Love is hard.

Going along is easy, Walking alone is hard.

Epidural is easy, Natural is hard.

Formula is easy, Nursing is hard.

Reaction is easy, Action is hard.

Pizza is easy, Salad is hard.

Sleeping in is easy, Early workouts are hard.

Watching TV is easy, Reading is hard.

Talking about God is easy, Praying to and following God is hard.

Getting married is easy, Staying married is hard.

So why is all this true?

Because nothing in life that is worthwhile comes without effort.

Thanks for stopping by…

See you tomorrow.


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