Category Archives: family

Fortyhood: Biopsies and Babies?!?!

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images“Triple Knee”….”Over the top”….”Reverse Turn”. On this particular Saturday morning, I was finding it difficult to keep up mentally AND physically in my favorite class, one that I have been taking for over 16 years. This usually only happens under one condition. No, surely that’s not what it is. I had a wacky cycle last month; 2 in one month, 11 days apart. Surely I was headed towards the big M. That’s what I had decided was the reason for my late cycle.

“If you just listen to the beat”, someone in the class, seeing my confusion, offered, in an attempt to help me. In my bewilderment, I tell a complete stranger, “I think I’m pregnant!” I’m sure it caught her off guard, lol! She tells me maybe it’s just my period about to start, and I struggle through the rest of class.

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I originally started this blog post on 5/26 and today is 9/28. I honestly don’t even have the mental space to make this post the literary masterpiece I wanted it to be, lol! Yes, I was indeed pregnant and 2 days after confirming the pregnancy, my mammogram came back abnormal. Talk about stressed and anxious?!?!? I had a biopsy and thankfully the mass was benign, and unfortunately, the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage, my 3rd in a row.

Sharing such personal stories, open you up for so much judgement; “How old is she?”, “Don’t they know what causes that?”, “Don’t they already have FOUR children?!?!?”, but I have decided in spite of what others think, (and yes, I’m totally aware and informed of the ‘risks’ that come with ‘advanced maternal age’) we travel the road less traveled, thus ‘Offdachain and Outtadabox’.

When faced with breast cancer and a baby, you start to realize that some things are totally out of your control. I have decided that there are far worse things than being judged for my lack of birth control, like death!

I was inspired to complete this post after being invited to a couple’s party last night who had never met us,but read the blog. We had a wonderful time, rapping all the old school hip-hop songs, lol! They kept commenting on how much they enjoyed the blog. It has been forever since we posted, and as you will soon see, so much has been going in our lives. I’m never ashamed or embarrassed to share our lows, because I know it’s not our final destination.

I hope that my transparency will help someone to stop allowing the culture to dictate your choices and maybe stop someone from judging someone else’s (I’m a work in progress on this one).

More to come.

ODB

 

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Celebrating 1 year in DC!!

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WOW!

It just seemed like yesterday.  However, it was March 2013 and I was boarding an airplane, on my way to Washington, DC and leaving my family behind.  I knew I had a new career ahead but did not even know when I would be able to bring my family to the area that I now alone was going to call HOME.

I’m not ashamed to admit how relieving it was to see the seat next to me on the plane remain empty.  The flight time was used entirely for crying.  Not all in a bad way because the feeling that God had heard me and answered with exactly my request for employment was an awesome feeling.

The next time I will not only pray for a new career opportunity back in Washington, DC but also the financial ability to take my family with me. (sometimes we are in such a rush to eat after we finish praying that we forget such small details)

Again, I want to thank the family willing to not only take me in as a homeless person (new age homeless) and provide me with a car to drive as well.  (I pray that they reap 50 fold) But this was the hardest time of my life.

Today, I am able to report that my first position ended with my department being closed down.  This closing found me as the only person in the department to be kept by the management team.  This closing also allowed me to spend several months learning many new skills that have enhanced my resume and Linkedin profile.  During this time, I was also able to somehow impress upon the government agency and the managerial staff that there existed some abilities to bring employees together for a positive outcome and these landed me an appointment as the lead for a division retreat in addition to the lead of the communications committee for the entire agency retreat….AT THE SAME TIME!

WHEW!

Thanks again God for canceling the smaller retreat….but only after I had done most of the leg work and obtained the experience that only helped to prepare me for the BIG GAME DAY.

While we are currently in the midst of the agency wide retreat and leading over 500 government employees on a COALESCE MISSION that is set to last from March until August of this year and are creating an atmosphere of bonding and relationships that will elevate this agency to heights it has not seen in some time.

Oh, I forgot one small detail.  Exactly 1 month ago today I was promoted into my third position in only this first year.

This last year has been pretty productive and the tears today are because of my gratefulness that I now have my family in DC to enjoy every minute.

But my kids are SO LOUD. (how did my wife do it all by herself?????  Thanks Dear!!!  You get weekends off for the next two years!!

ODC;

The Biggest UNTOLD Story in our ‘Viral’ Skype Family Videos

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On November 11, 2013 three (3) videos of my family, The Covins, were released for the entire world  and allows everyone all over the planet the ability to have a look into our private lives.

The videos, which can be viewed on Skype TV or YouTube as part of the “Moving Forward” campaign, introduce you to my homeschooling family who has a beautiful, yoga pant wearing wife, helping the entire community mommy, 4 young aspiring actresses, beautiful, doing each others’ hair daughters, who are all led by a social media husband, but turn the cable TV off dad.

The taping took 5 days and the actual footage that was used was a total of 7 minutes long. So of course the videos don’t have time to allow you into all areas of our lives, because the purpose was to show you a very important aspect of our lives during a 5-6 month timeframe that my family was living apart and how Skype helped us to navigate that process.

The distance between my family and myself was over 500 miles.

Sounds crazy and WAS!!

It was the hardest time of my life and yes SKYPE made it totally doable. I am really grateful to SKYPE and the creators for being available, at this time in our lives.

I almost want to cry thinking of the nights that I experienced anxiety attacks for the first time in my life. I felt like I was having a heart attack, but found it was due to the separation.

And God worked it out through a mentor of mine named James Andrews.

James is the Digital Evangelist and Partner at StudioGood and called me to tell me about the Skype casting for a family in transition and I thank him for making that call and Joyce from my church for calling to tell me while I was on a Skype call with Dan Bell Casting already. (That is how you know it was really your family they were looking for or God really stepped in and said it was time)

But the Biggest UNTOLD Story is where and how I was able to live during this time of separation.

When I really think about it, I was homeless.

But God showed me favor in the form of a family that allowed me to stay in the basement of their nice town home in Woodbridge, Virginia.  THIS is the AMAZING part of the story.  The family was not unfamiliar to me but were not blood relatives or anything.  The family consisted of a husband, wife and 2 children (boy and girl both under the age of 10).

The husband and I were roommates before I was married and God spoke to him and his wonderful wife about them allowing a man to invade their privacy for 5-6 months and be around their children.

WHO DOES THAT?

During this time where we needed community to step up, to experience it actually happening is mind-blowing.

I was able to give them the ability to have a regularly scheduled “Thursday Date Night” where the wife was able to discover the husband had a passion for playing pool that she had never known about.

During this time, I also had an amazing weekend where the couple was able to travel out of town, without the children, and I was able to run the children around to activities like bowling and swimming.  This weekend running totally reminded me of time with my girls.

The question I have is….

WHO DOES THIS?

Who actually trusts God enough to follow His word and do something for ‘the least of these’ in these times of…

IT’S ALL ABOUT ME.

I am so grateful.

There are 3 videos and the first one currently has just under 600k views in only 4 days and don’t worry I’m not famous because 400k of those views came from me.

And I cry then entire time.

I cry because I know the UNTOLD story. I know that if that family doesn’t bless mine by allowing me a place to stay and the ability to use a 3rd car….

WE NEVER MEET ON THE VIDEO.

So THANK YOU!

Thank you to the wife for being flexible!

Thank you to their son for talking to me when you didn’t always want to because you are not a talker and I am and sometimes I just need some boy energy! (And thanks for finally getting me to Saturday morning Flag Football)

Thanks to their hug-a-thon sweety, daughter for hugging me so tight that with Skype I thought I was at home hugging my own daughters.  (I have not forgotten you.  Once we get our truck situation straight you will be my 5th daughter)

And thanks to God for speaking to the husband and asking his family to be open to helping mine.

We are forever grateful, because without your family, mine doesn’t grow and elevate during this time.

We LOVE you guys and are forever grateful.

ODC

p.s. Let us know when you want a ‘Thursday Date Night’ or a weekend off…WE GOT YOU!

4 Questions to a Perfect Marriage!!

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1. What are 3 things your spouse would love to do as a married couple?  Have you made efforts to see that those things happen without them having to ask?

2. What are 3 things your spouse would love to do by themselves or with their friends? Have you made an effort to schedule/surprise them by scheduling those times?

3. Have you sent your spouse a thank you card or shown (not told) gratitude towards them for what they bring to the marriage/relationship? (And this needs to be done without expecting anything to be said to you in return about how freaking great you are)

4. Is your marriage intimate enough for the both of you and if not, would scheduling intimacy time rectify this challenge? (Remember: Better Scheduled than Not to happen at all)

As we all know, marriage takes work!  Remember the rough times come when we stop focusing on what we can do to better the marriage and begin focusing on the areas our spouse may be lacking.

STOP!

And begin to prop your spouse up and show them gratitude and begin or continue to pass the test on the way to a Perfect Marriage.

I Love You for Stopping!

ODC

“Do The Math!”

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Tonight our family improved forever and my position as homeschooling principal has just been expanded to……………………………………………………………………………… Math Teacher.

Not quite the promotion I was looking for…

But I will take it.

(even if it does carry the same pay as my previous position…..NOTHING FINANCIAL)

But the reward will come….RIGHT!

So one of my daughters is having some difficulty with self-control.  She thinks her issue is math but it is actually self-control.  And I have come to the realization that where I can help out is in the Math department.

So I have taken all math responsibilities in the house. ODC is now officially the head of the math empire and proud of it.

Until I got the tears from two of them tonight while at the table, I was good.

Oh don’t worry, I can ignore handle it.

So here is the deal.  I am copying the Math Workbook and am going to do each lesson daily just like I’m requiring of them.

The only difference is I will be doing my lessons during my breaks at work.

What breaks?

The ANSWER: The ones I am going to make a priority from now on.  They will be used to complete the same worksheets i give to my oldest daughters so she can call me on my lunch break with any question that she has pertaining to math and allow my wife to get back to mastering the other stuff that was being held up by daily Math crying fits/breaks.

It will pay off.

And at the end of the day……

My wife will say I’m a sexy Math Teacher! (Even if I’m not….She will say it anyway)

The Question is what can you make time for during the day that will give you a closer relationship with your family? Is it worth it?

Thanks for stopping by,

ODC

Blog Post by Logan (G2)/Why did we move from DC just to move back? (A daughter speaks her mind)

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Hello World,

My name is Logan (I think my parent’s call me G2 here) and I am 9 but will be 10 in November (I’m a BIG Birthday person…in case you wanted to know) and I am Michael Covin’s daughter.

You may know him as ODC, which is short for Offdachain…which is exactly what he is…but you probably knew that already.

When he told me that he got the job and that we were moving to Washington, DC I burst into tears and was very sad.

I started to question my mom, Dawn Covin, or ODB (I think that’s what you guys call her) why we just didn’t stay there (because we lived there before)  She said, “We had to help our church move to Georgia and my dad found a job and we found a nice house so we just stayed there.”

Long story short (ODC jump in moment: I wonder who she has been listening to on the phone?)…Back to post—-Long, story short I turned 4, then 7 since moving to Georgia and have made over 30 friends and was really going to miss all of them.

I started my acting career in Georgia by shooting a commercial for Stone Mountain Park’s Geyser Tower Attraction….If you go to Youtube and search “Splish It, Splash It” Stone Mountain Park you should see me. {That’s me at 25 seconds in the pink shirt and pig tails…CHEESE} 🙂

Then I was a part of a play at the Horizon Theatre called Madeline’s Christmas and I just knew we lived in the perfect place for me.

Well guess what?  My family was cast in a commercial for SKYPE and we left for DC!!! We got to do a whole bunch of acting.  So much I was tired of my dad saying, “Let’s GO! You guys are working!  Let’s do it again.”

But then after a week we stopped and it ended.

We found a nice house in the SouthEast and we found a homeschool group and I’m now working on making friends there and I REALLY, REALLY like my tutor, Mrs. Pie.

And that’s MY SIDE OF THE STORY.

SEE YOU LATER,

LOGAN

TSO (THE SWEET ONE)…it was all I could think of…and it’s true

What does a Husband with 4 daughters do on Saturday?

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Well, if I am smart every single one of my days will start with a morning workout with my wife. She is a HUGE workout person and prefers mornings 3,000% better than any other time of the day. We actually were able to get back to the gym we left 7 years ago where both of us were fitness instructors.

www.resultsthegym.com is hands down the best gym in Washington, DC and the best gym I have ever been an instructor or any part of…..needless to say when I walked in with my champion WIFE we received a heroes welcome.

Me, only because I was with her!

The workouts were of course awesome and pushed us to the max.

We left the gym and had to divide and conquer.(Parenting phrase used by those parents with multiple children)

She took 3 girls with her and I took the big girl with me.(Sounded like a Great Deal to me too)

The 7 year old, who turns 8 next week, and the 9 year old, who turns 10 in November, went to their first week of FREE ice-skating lessons. The 3 year old tagged along with them but I am sure in the coming weeks that will be renegotiated.

The 12 year old and myself went to a morning Jazz class…well not me but she did and then she went to a ballet class with The Washington Ballet Teen 2 group, where she is the youngest person in the class and then landed in an unexpected Masters Class taught by an instructor from the Alvin Ailey company.

This extended an already long dance day an extra 2 hours….

WHAT!!???

Was I supposed to tell her NO?

So, my wife and the 3 met us at dance after their skating classes and we all took off to pick up lunch and bring something back for the big girl and then head home for a 30 minute break before I needed to drop my wife off to get her hair done.

This is when I ask my wife if the nanny is coming by to help me….Knowing we don’t have one.

And I look up and it is only 3pm.

Note to Singles: Get your rest.

ODC