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The Biggest UNTOLD Story in our ‘Viral’ Skype Family Videos

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On November 11, 2013 three (3) videos of my family, The Covins, were released for the entire world  and allows everyone all over the planet the ability to have a look into our private lives.

The videos, which can be viewed on Skype TV or YouTube as part of the “Moving Forward” campaign, introduce you to my homeschooling family who has a beautiful, yoga pant wearing wife, helping the entire community mommy, 4 young aspiring actresses, beautiful, doing each others’ hair daughters, who are all led by a social media husband, but turn the cable TV off dad.

The taping took 5 days and the actual footage that was used was a total of 7 minutes long. So of course the videos don’t have time to allow you into all areas of our lives, because the purpose was to show you a very important aspect of our lives during a 5-6 month timeframe that my family was living apart and how Skype helped us to navigate that process.

The distance between my family and myself was over 500 miles.

Sounds crazy and WAS!!

It was the hardest time of my life and yes SKYPE made it totally doable. I am really grateful to SKYPE and the creators for being available, at this time in our lives.

I almost want to cry thinking of the nights that I experienced anxiety attacks for the first time in my life. I felt like I was having a heart attack, but found it was due to the separation.

And God worked it out through a mentor of mine named James Andrews.

James is the Digital Evangelist and Partner at StudioGood and called me to tell me about the Skype casting for a family in transition and I thank him for making that call and Joyce from my church for calling to tell me while I was on a Skype call with Dan Bell Casting already. (That is how you know it was really your family they were looking for or God really stepped in and said it was time)

But the Biggest UNTOLD Story is where and how I was able to live during this time of separation.

When I really think about it, I was homeless.

But God showed me favor in the form of a family that allowed me to stay in the basement of their nice town home in Woodbridge, Virginia.  THIS is the AMAZING part of the story.  The family was not unfamiliar to me but were not blood relatives or anything.  The family consisted of a husband, wife and 2 children (boy and girl both under the age of 10).

The husband and I were roommates before I was married and God spoke to him and his wonderful wife about them allowing a man to invade their privacy for 5-6 months and be around their children.

WHO DOES THAT?

During this time where we needed community to step up, to experience it actually happening is mind-blowing.

I was able to give them the ability to have a regularly scheduled “Thursday Date Night” where the wife was able to discover the husband had a passion for playing pool that she had never known about.

During this time, I also had an amazing weekend where the couple was able to travel out of town, without the children, and I was able to run the children around to activities like bowling and swimming.  This weekend running totally reminded me of time with my girls.

The question I have is….

WHO DOES THIS?

Who actually trusts God enough to follow His word and do something for ‘the least of these’ in these times of…

IT’S ALL ABOUT ME.

I am so grateful.

There are 3 videos and the first one currently has just under 600k views in only 4 days and don’t worry I’m not famous because 400k of those views came from me.

And I cry then entire time.

I cry because I know the UNTOLD story. I know that if that family doesn’t bless mine by allowing me a place to stay and the ability to use a 3rd car….

WE NEVER MEET ON THE VIDEO.

So THANK YOU!

Thank you to the wife for being flexible!

Thank you to their son for talking to me when you didn’t always want to because you are not a talker and I am and sometimes I just need some boy energy! (And thanks for finally getting me to Saturday morning Flag Football)

Thanks to their hug-a-thon sweety, daughter for hugging me so tight that with Skype I thought I was at home hugging my own daughters.  (I have not forgotten you.  Once we get our truck situation straight you will be my 5th daughter)

And thanks to God for speaking to the husband and asking his family to be open to helping mine.

We are forever grateful, because without your family, mine doesn’t grow and elevate during this time.

We LOVE you guys and are forever grateful.

ODC

p.s. Let us know when you want a ‘Thursday Date Night’ or a weekend off…WE GOT YOU!

How do we save our boys??

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Earlier today I attended a church service that involved the baptism of about 17 individuals. The 17 included adults, teenagers and pre-teens. Surprisingly enough there were several men in the group and that alone was unusual, but quite refreshing to see. There were a few young men that caught my eye today and I believe their stories can give us a few tools to possibly help save our young boys.
I was lucky enough to sit directly behind a young man named Clifton who was one of those baptised on this day and noticed he had such a pleasant demeanor and attitude. He was accompanied to the service by what I believed to be his mother and grandmother. I did not verify this personal information but was sure there were no men in his party. Clifton looked to be between 8 & 10 years old.
There was another gentleman who caught my attention and his name was Trebreyon and he was accompanied by his father, mother, 2 aunts and 2 male cousins ages 19 & 16. Though I did not verify the spelling of his name I did verify the members of his family and the ages of the young male family members.
These two young men, Clifton and Trebreyon, are 5-7 years apart but both carry such an innocence about them. I watched Clifton as he was starting to become cold during the service after being dunked in the baptismal pool. He leaned over and whispered to his mother and she allowed him to lay comfortably under her arm. But it is not uncommon for a young boy near 8-10 to still have his innocence and even with his support system not including any men on this day…..I WILL BE PRAYING FOR LITTLE CLIFTON. THAT HE DOESN’T GET CAUGHT HAVING TO BE “THE MAN’ BEFORE TIME BECAUSE OF A LACK OF A MALE PRESENCE.
Mr. Trebreyon, on the other hand, was outside in the lobby after service and had no idea that I was watching him. He was a little bored with the adult conversation that takes place after church services and made his way over to a window. A window that had a lip just above what his outstretched arms could reach. He stood there…looked up…and decided he would not allow the window to conquer him. So he reached up and was able to just get his fingers over the lip and pull himself up. Now this is a teenager around 14 and this church service takes place in a school and it is not going to fall down or anything. So those of you wondering that…take a deep breath. But what I noticed was a teenager who was still holding on to his innocence. When I was that age, I would have been more concerned with girls and what they were doing. In church or not! If we really keep it all the way REAL! So being the father of 4 beautiful young ladies, it was an awesome experience to see that Mr. Trebreyon’s support system is spending the time to cultivate a young man who is concerned more with the business of God and not the streets. His innocence parallel that of Clifton, who was 5 years his junior. I was able to speak to his parents after service and tell them.

JOB WELL DONE! KEEP BEING AN ACTIVE PRESENCE, BECAUSE THEIR INNOCENCE IS BASED ON OUR INVESTMENT OF TIME AND ALL THEY WANT IS OUR TIME!

ODC

The Perfect Husband Is…

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The Perfect Husband Is…
A husband who loves his wife and the entire world knows it.

A husband who understands that an apology and CHANGING makes all the difference.

A man who understands that he doesn’t get to do something stupid and then decide his wife should be over it when it is convenient for him.

A Man who understands generational curses and realizes that if his family suffered due to the breakdown of it’s HEAD leaving, he needs to be prepared to fight daily (hourly) for the success of his family.

A Man who realizes he may have done things  in his past that were out of God’s order but TODAY he knows he is just ONE decision away from being “the same old guy he was before.” This ability to see the EDGE of destruction is sometimes what prevents going over.

Functional with his children…Without his Wife, but realizes that it is his WIFE who has coached him to this functional point.

A husband who understands daughters and sons are different and must be loved in a way to bring out their gifts and the Father plays a huge role in facilitating this process. So the Perfect Husband understands that he must be in tune with his children and not just his employment or sports, in order for this to happen.

A husband who understands that a question comes across with a more subtle delivery than just making a statement.

A husband who knows he can’t make it on his own. He understands the “Lone Ranger Syndrome” leads to “Self-Destruction”

A husband who ask his wife during a casual conversation…6 months prior… “What is your idea of the Perfect Mothers Day? Or Birthday?

A man who reads and finds literature that will both challenge him and elevate his thinking.

A man who studies his wife and realizes that she is not just changing but evolving.

A man who delivers on his promises to his children.

A husband who has a group of friends that will shut their lives down to save his marriage and he would do the same.

A husband who has friends who his wife can call when he is acting PRIDEFUL.

A man who is open and honest about his feelings and is willing to talk about what he does not do correctly and he tells his wife before he makes the wrong decision.

A man who understands that counseling works and everyone needs it before and during marriage

A husband who is not afraid to admit  HE IS NOT PERFECT,  but he is…

Humble!

ODC

What can you add to the Perfect Husband List?

Part 1: Gameday for Craig Boone: He played until the whistle.

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Man Monday at http://www.thesoulfactory.com is where I was when my phone started lighting up with phone calls and text messages about our champion, Craig Boone.  It was the perfect setting.  An all male bible study that allows you to bond with the Godly men in your life and have the conversations that we need in order to build the Kingdom.    I lived about 25-30 minutes from Craig and did not nearly speak or see him enough in my almost 6 years in the ATL.  I think we all gave Facebook and other Social Media outlets the power to make us feel we have spent more time with loved ones than was actual and this was the case with Craig and I.

But this did not stop my 71st Senior High School Falcon family from reaching out to me and knowing that I would answer the call for a passionate brother I loved dearly.  After receiving the news that he was down, I called my wife and told her I would not be coming directly home but was on my way to South Fulton Medical Center to check on Craig Boone.  I figured I would get there and maybe have to go get him something to eat and then be home late.

THAT WAS NOT THE CASE.

I received a phone call from Karen as I exited the highway on the street for the hospital and she told me, “Mike, he did not make it.”  I said, “I knew that is why you were calling me.”

Because of that feeling, I almost did not answer the phone…You know…In an effort to give me more time with him.  I guess I was being selfish, because God knew what HE needed to do in that moment.

I arrived at the hospital.  Parked and ran into his sister, Kenny and a couple people with YMCA shirts coming out of the trauma unit.  I still had hope after reading an article on the soccer player who had a heart attack and was revived after 45 minutes.  I immediately thought. “Why are they quitting on Craig. He always played from one side of the field to the other.  He always played to the whistle!

The whistle had blown.

ODC