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The Biggest UNTOLD Story in our ‘Viral’ Skype Family Videos







On November 11, 2013 three (3) videos of my family, The Covins, were released for the entire world  and allows everyone all over the planet the ability to have a look into our private lives.

The videos, which can be viewed on Skype TV or YouTube as part of the “Moving Forward” campaign, introduce you to my homeschooling family who has a beautiful, yoga pant wearing wife, helping the entire community mommy, 4 young aspiring actresses, beautiful, doing each others’ hair daughters, who are all led by a social media husband, but turn the cable TV off dad.

The taping took 5 days and the actual footage that was used was a total of 7 minutes long. So of course the videos don’t have time to allow you into all areas of our lives, because the purpose was to show you a very important aspect of our lives during a 5-6 month timeframe that my family was living apart and how Skype helped us to navigate that process.

The distance between my family and myself was over 500 miles.

Sounds crazy and WAS!!

It was the hardest time of my life and yes SKYPE made it totally doable. I am really grateful to SKYPE and the creators for being available, at this time in our lives.

I almost want to cry thinking of the nights that I experienced anxiety attacks for the first time in my life. I felt like I was having a heart attack, but found it was due to the separation.

And God worked it out through a mentor of mine named James Andrews.

James is the Digital Evangelist and Partner at StudioGood and called me to tell me about the Skype casting for a family in transition and I thank him for making that call and Joyce from my church for calling to tell me while I was on a Skype call with Dan Bell Casting already. (That is how you know it was really your family they were looking for or God really stepped in and said it was time)

But the Biggest UNTOLD Story is where and how I was able to live during this time of separation.

When I really think about it, I was homeless.

But God showed me favor in the form of a family that allowed me to stay in the basement of their nice town home in Woodbridge, Virginia.  THIS is the AMAZING part of the story.  The family was not unfamiliar to me but were not blood relatives or anything.  The family consisted of a husband, wife and 2 children (boy and girl both under the age of 10).

The husband and I were roommates before I was married and God spoke to him and his wonderful wife about them allowing a man to invade their privacy for 5-6 months and be around their children.


During this time where we needed community to step up, to experience it actually happening is mind-blowing.

I was able to give them the ability to have a regularly scheduled “Thursday Date Night” where the wife was able to discover the husband had a passion for playing pool that she had never known about.

During this time, I also had an amazing weekend where the couple was able to travel out of town, without the children, and I was able to run the children around to activities like bowling and swimming.  This weekend running totally reminded me of time with my girls.

The question I have is….


Who actually trusts God enough to follow His word and do something for ‘the least of these’ in these times of…


I am so grateful.

There are 3 videos and the first one currently has just under 600k views in only 4 days and don’t worry I’m not famous because 400k of those views came from me.

And I cry then entire time.

I cry because I know the UNTOLD story. I know that if that family doesn’t bless mine by allowing me a place to stay and the ability to use a 3rd car….



Thank you to the wife for being flexible!

Thank you to their son for talking to me when you didn’t always want to because you are not a talker and I am and sometimes I just need some boy energy! (And thanks for finally getting me to Saturday morning Flag Football)

Thanks to their hug-a-thon sweety, daughter for hugging me so tight that with Skype I thought I was at home hugging my own daughters.  (I have not forgotten you.  Once we get our truck situation straight you will be my 5th daughter)

And thanks to God for speaking to the husband and asking his family to be open to helping mine.

We are forever grateful, because without your family, mine doesn’t grow and elevate during this time.

We LOVE you guys and are forever grateful.


p.s. Let us know when you want a ‘Thursday Date Night’ or a weekend off…WE GOT YOU!


What does a Husband with 4 daughters do on Saturday?


Four Ballerinas

People Exercising at a Gymnasium


Well, if I am smart every single one of my days will start with a morning workout with my wife. She is a HUGE workout person and prefers mornings 3,000% better than any other time of the day. We actually were able to get back to the gym we left 7 years ago where both of us were fitness instructors. is hands down the best gym in Washington, DC and the best gym I have ever been an instructor or any part of…..needless to say when I walked in with my champion WIFE we received a heroes welcome.

Me, only because I was with her!

The workouts were of course awesome and pushed us to the max.

We left the gym and had to divide and conquer.(Parenting phrase used by those parents with multiple children)

She took 3 girls with her and I took the big girl with me.(Sounded like a Great Deal to me too)

The 7 year old, who turns 8 next week, and the 9 year old, who turns 10 in November, went to their first week of FREE ice-skating lessons. The 3 year old tagged along with them but I am sure in the coming weeks that will be renegotiated.

The 12 year old and myself went to a morning Jazz class…well not me but she did and then she went to a ballet class with The Washington Ballet Teen 2 group, where she is the youngest person in the class and then landed in an unexpected Masters Class taught by an instructor from the Alvin Ailey company.

This extended an already long dance day an extra 2 hours….


Was I supposed to tell her NO?

So, my wife and the 3 met us at dance after their skating classes and we all took off to pick up lunch and bring something back for the big girl and then head home for a 30 minute break before I needed to drop my wife off to get her hair done.

This is when I ask my wife if the nanny is coming by to help me….Knowing we don’t have one.

And I look up and it is only 3pm.

Note to Singles: Get your rest.


Bragging on my Boo…THE SERIES: “This is why I came!”


Congratulations to ODB for completely smashing her first sprint triathlon!!

If she allows me, I will post the video of her crossing the finish line on my Facebook page.   People don’t normally cross the finish line looking that good and happy after a triathlon.

But how would I know?…I guess it sounded good.

I just wanted to share that my wife dealt with lots of fear and anxiety about not only still learning how to swim over the last 3-4 months but having to accomplish this portion of her triathlon in 17 feet of water.


So during the Ramblin Rose Sprint triathlon there was a bridge in the middle of the pool and all the athletes were required to walk across the entire pool to arrive at their starting point.  This gave my wife a chance to see 17 feet from above for way to long of a time.  The part that is worth bragging about is she found that one side of the pool was much better than expected and only 6 ft, while the other side was the dreaded 17 feet!!!! The great part is they gave each athlete the option of which depth they would rather complete their swim.

My wife responded, “17 Feet! This is why I came!”  “I need to face it.”

Anyone who participated in these events were winners but it’s the stories behind the scenes that really get you motivated and just pull tears from your eyes.

My wife inspires me to accept all challenges regardless of how deep the waters look…….. and to be great this is what must happen.

And  I realize…….THIS IS WHY I CAME!

Thanks Boo!


“Bragging on my Boo” THE LAUNCH




My Stay-at-home wife, that never stays home… I am still seeking to coin a name for this type of woman that I have…has inspired me to create a series on our blog titled, “Bragging on my Boo.” This series will give me an opportunity to give the words of affirmation(See for more understanding) that she has been deserving for sometime.  And the need for a series is evident.  She is constantly finding her next, THING…most of the time while still fighting to win her last BIG CHALLENGE!

I am not really sure my wife understands how excited I am to be married to such a wonderful, WONDER WOMAN. (That is what a nurse that watched her give birth with NO MEDICATION called her, which is amazing considering this nurse had been watching the birthing process for over 15 years).

Today she is going to depart for Charlotte, North Carolina…well really, it is actually Huntersville, but who is keeping track of that.  You already know I am a big Charlotte fan and have renamed it the capital of the state.  (Just waiting on legislation to pass it now)

She is headed to tackle her NEXT BIG THING!  A sprint Triathlon that starts with a 250 yard swim, moves to the 9 mile bike ride (on my 11 year old’s bike) and finishes with a 2 mile run.

The amazing part to this event’s story is not even that we can not currently bite off the price of a new road bike, with the super skinny tires, and she is having to use my daughter’s childrens/mountain bike, with the super NON-SKINNY tires, from Toys R Us, but the fact that she is over 40 (Twitter handle: @fit40four ) and when doing a Triathlon started coming out of her mouth…………………..


Of course now this makes me laugh and brings to mind the chapter titled, “Can you swim?” in the book How to be Black by (Twitter handle: @baratunde )

My wonderful wife, who like many in the AA community, attended pool parties in college, but did not get in the pool (unless you were thrown in by the football players). I don’t even think she wore a swimsuit to those parties.

She took her first swimming lesson only 6 years ago at the age of 36.  Did I just tell my wife’s age on an internet forum that will last forever and always tell her age?  Well, she has the password and can edit this part if she wishes.

I don’t believe in this class she learned too much but I give her credit for becoming part of the ELITE AA community.  Now once she decided to step up her game and do this triathlon thingy, she had to get on the internet and find the best of the best in swimming.  I am hearing splashing in the bed and wondering “What now?”.  She is up all night watching videos on Total Immersion. Now she is going from not knowing how to swim to learning how to swim like a fish.  She even had a Total Immersion swim coach come to our community pool and give her a private lesson, while I videotaped on her iPhone.  Yes the one that we recovered in the other blog post.  Yeah Baby!!!


So now all I hear all night is bodies slicing through water and she has me watching the videos and learning how to swim using this technique and considering a triathlon.  Well, first we are doing the ING Miami Marathon 2013 in Jan.  I tell you what.  If you are single and want to know how to select a wife that has discipline and will be a wonderful wife and mother, you may want to check out her work ethic.  I did not say you have to get her a job to do this.

But if she gets up at 4:30am 6 days a week for years and is always willing to challenge herself and needs no one else to motivate her and is a leader and moves from a 5k to a 10k to a half-marathon to a sprint-TRI to a marathon to…….

Geesh! I just heard her on the phone talking IRON GIRL.

Thank God I wont have to do that one….

I need a break.

Thanks for stopping,


No Excuses!!


As you all know, my wife has been working out 6 days a week for our 12 years of marriage.  I, on the other hand, have not.  But I have always had the desire but lacked the motivation to GET’ER DONE.  This may surprise some of you because you read some of my fitness/workout post.  If you have kept track of those they only happened when I was working out.

But Crossfit at ICONZ has changed all of that.

The atmosphere at ICONZ is totally motivating and my last visit was one to remember for a lifetime.  I

I arrived with my awesome wife, who has given birth to my 4 beautiful daughters, and gives me NO EXCUSE not to keep the fitness going.  She invited our friend, Doreen, who has just completed another IRONMAN Triathlon (2.4mi swim, 112mi bike & 26.2mi run).

See you have to understand that when you are as serious as my wife about protecting your temple(body) you will not rest on the fact that people in your circle view you as “the guru of fitness.”  You will invite Doreen into your circle and shake the whole circle up!

And this is the attitude that CrossfitICONZ produces each time its’ doors are opened.

On this day I made my way to the back of the ICONZ studio and noticed a private training taking place.

This private one on one training was between a gentleman who had a stroke previously named Mr. Bob and Keefa a Certified Crossfit Coach, who was 37 weeks pregnant. I just stood on the side and watched in awe as those two did squats, with a  box and PVC pipe sitting very near.  I also viewed both of them pushing the sled.  It really is amazing what can happen to our fitness program when we stop making excuses.

On my way to the other side of the facility I walked past a mother with her daughter lying on her stomach as she did sit-ups with the introductory foundations class.  This really made me wonder.  How many others were scheduled to be in attendance and found a reason  an excuse that prevented them from starting their Crossfit program at Crossfit ICONZ of Snellville.

With all of this going on around me and a different fresh new work out everyday, I have found a home that will push me, hold me accountable and allow me to not make excuses as I reach the ultimate level of fitness for this 43 year old ex-collegiate athlete and can do the same for you…

On your level…


Crossing over to ELITE FITNESS!!


Those of you who follow my wife and I via the Big 2 social media outlets know that she is a HUGE workout guru (Twitter: @fit40four) and I (Twitter: @iamoffdachain), on the other hand, am still hanging on to the fact that I ran track and played football on the collegiate level as a means to demonstrate my CURRENT fitness level.  I also will throw in how I was a spin instructor, even though I have not taught a class in 3-4 years…or so (5).

I mean I am moving….every now and then but not as much as she is and my challenge is finding just the thing to GET & KEEP me coming back and eventually achieve my weight loss, muscle building, body fat reducing, goals.

You guys know I like to put myself out there so you are able to look in the mirror, because none of us will make it to fitness heaven on the backs of our spouses.

Now, I am not as lazy as some because I did run a marathon last month(26.2) and have at least done the first week or two of P90X and Insanity.  I know many of you can identify with the 2nd half of the last sentence.

The question is what does the workout have to look like in order for us to FINISH THE DRILL?

I believe it needs to combine an individual workout with a team component that will help you exceed all your fitness goals and present you with daily challenges which will bring about IMMEDIATE RESULTS.  It is not found in a regular gym where the knowledge of the fitness professional is suspect and everyone is fighting over parking spaces during the time when that ONE instructor is not on vacation.  The workout has to be one that is going to take me to a level where I am  on a more ELITE LEVEL of fitness than my wife and takes all my excuses for working out away because it can be done on my lunch break.  It takes us all the way to the edge in sometimes only 20 minutes. The environment discusses ALL the challenges with my eating and presents me with educated options to consider like The Paleo Diet, which is actually a eating regimen.  The educated coaches are instructing me on what to fuel my body with before and after my workout to reach my maximum potential and they actually are doing what they are telling me to do and LOOK LIKE IT!

The workout is CROSSFIT  and the location is CrossfitICONZ!

My wife and I have completed our MUST HAVE Foundational Classes and I actually did all classes with her…UGH! (Not really trying to work out with her…Not trying to work THAT hard, but maybe I will finish as the champion.)

We will blog our journey to ELITE FITNESS with CrossfitICONZ and allow you to see how the WOD (Workout of the Day) changes DAILY to keep things fresh and exciting on our path.

Wish US luck!!