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Where in the world is ODC & ODB?

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If you have been wondering where we have been you are not alone.

¬†Someone said they knew my wife was in town but no one had seen her…Kinda like Jason Bourne!

Don’t worry I have been keeping notes in my journal and Man this blog will be SLAMMED with post from today until the end of the year with UNBELIEVABLE stories from “The Little House on the Block”

I will give you two BIG ones to cut your teeth on, but you have to wait for the blog post to get the specifics.

1. We have relocated from the Atlanta area to The District of Columbia…(Proper)

2. The entire family was cast and shot a commercial/documentary for Skype, which was purchased by Microsoft over the period of a week.  

So you will all get to meet us on a more intimate level very soon.

……And I am telling you.

The last 3 months in our home has been so exciting that all my daughters will actually share their first blog post within the next 2 weeks.

God is AWESOME!!

Stay tuned!!!

ODC

Year 2012 In Review: Life After…The Microwave

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Year 2012 In Review: Life After…The Microwave

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I wish that I could say that we ditched our microwave because we knew how unhealthy the dangerous the radiation was, sounds good, but that’s not the truth. I real story was that we were participating in a 21 Day liquid fast with our church, the Soul Factory, in January of this year. During that time, the microwave stopped working. It didn’t seem extremely significant at the time, since we weren’t using it, even though we were still preparing meals for the G-Unit. Once we completed the fast, it was time to make a decision.

Our microwave was the built-in type, if it wasn’t, I’m sure we would have just made a quick trip to the local Target to replace it. We really thought about whether or not we wanted to keep using something that we knew wasn’t totally safe; especially as it relates to food.

We decided to get a toaster/convection oven. I can honestly say that we haven’t missed a beat. Instead of microwave popcorn (also not the best option) we cook popcorn on the stove, we warm up leftovers, make toast, and do almost everything we did using the microwave in the toaster oven. The food seems to stay hot longer, and although it’s not as fast, I haven’t noticed any significant more time preparing our meals.

G2 (9 years old) made this comment today, “I’m kinda sad that we don’t have a microwave, but I’m glad we’re healthy”. This made me smile.

Do you use a toaster oven instead of microwave? I would love to hear about your experience.

ODB (not to be confused with the Wu-Tang member, RIP)

Family Matters and The Modern Family

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Have you ever had an experience that you kept playing back in your mind, over and over again? I’ve been fortunate enough to have had two of these experiences within two months and they both involved my family. ODC and I had the pleasure of hosting my family for Easter. My Dad, his wife, my brother, my SIL, and my 4 nieces and my nephew all drove down to Georgia from Delaware and Maryland to spend a few days with us. A few weeks ago, we were on an ‘Award Tour ‘ up the east coast, stopping in NC, Delaware, Philly, Maryland, and DC to celebrate my nieces graduation from high school and visit our friends and family.

These two experiences have left me longing for the physical closeness and support of my family. We, like many families before us, made a decision to pursue an opportunity that took us hundreds of miles away from our families. As a military brat, I can remember traveling to Philadelphia for the holidays and my mom being in tears as we left to return home. My dad would always give her that “don’t start that again” look, but now I know why she cried.

I lost my mom in 2008, about 2 years after we moved to Georgia, after living less than 2 hours from her and about 15 minutes away from dad and his wife. It was easy to take the girls down Pennsylvania avenue, into Maryland to my dad’s for the weekend, or at times my mom would drive down from Delaware and spend an extended weekend with us in DC. Our life has been going at 180 mph over the past few years since moving to Georgia; job losses, homeschooling, caring for a terminally ill parent, death, pregnancy, caring for 4 children, and the list goes on. Spending time around my family made me realize the peace that comes with having support and the non-stop play for the girls that comes along with cousins!

Looking around at my some of my friends, and even some of my family, I see glimpses of familial ties that make me a little green with envy. One of my dearest and best friends relocated her family from California to Maryland. Shortly after, her inlaws ¬†packed up and purchased a home less than a mile away. I have a few friends who have a parent or parents that live in the home with them and their families. My brother, his wife, and their three children live with my sister-in-law’s parents. Recently, my sister and her children moved in with my dad and his wife.

Over the years our family has attempted to ‘create’ our own village by hosting people in our home during their times of transition. Independence is something that is pushed heavily by our society, when the reality is that we need to be interdependent. The pendelum will continue to swing and we should ebb and flow to support the needs of our loved ones. We could benefit from looking at other cultures and observing how the idea of ‘multigenerational living’ has been the norm and is a very successful family model. In Japan, it is said ¬†that even if parents/grandparents don’t live in the home, they should live close enough to bring over a bowl of hot soup.

Is this family paradigm easy? No, but it’s because our culture is rooted in selfishness. Clear communication and boundaries, regular family meetings, shared responsibilities, and a willingness to look beyond your own needs are key components to make this work.

I miss my family and as we continue to deal with growing children and aging parents, I have started to see the tremendous value in being in close proximity to them. But for now, our home is in Georgia and we are more than willing to open it to anyone in our family who wants to come here *hint, hint*.

Do you live close to or with your extended family? Why or why not?

The missing relationship in “Think Like a Man”

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Congratulations to “Think Like a Man” for taking over the box office for several weeks and allowing us to all laugh at the movie which many said actually passed the King of Comedy crown to actor and ¬†narrator, Kevin Hart. It was impossible to depart from the movie and not know that he carried the production from the first scene till the conclusion. ¬† It is always great to be able to laugh at our relationships and still grow from our mistakes.

The character played by Kevin Hart was just one of the relationships highlighted during the relationship movie that was to give legs to the New York Best Selling Book by Steve Harvey (written by D. Millner of www.mybrownbaby.com)

It took a few weeks for my wife and I to find time to enjoy the feature and it was much different from what I expected of the film following the blockbuster book.  Once able to view the film and the different depictions of relationships I immediately noticed what was missing.

With all the different flavors of men in the book there was only one from the film that was NOT FEATURED!

The only relationship that was not allowed any depth was the man who helped out in the home, who supported his family, who checked in regularly and who was not afraid to speak positively  about his relationship around the guys. And some may notice that this role was given to a white actor. Hmmmm.

His reward in the film: ¬†We never see his woman or get a chance to hear or feel the most positive relationship in the featured film. ¬†In my opinion, this was the major loss in “Think Like A Man” and was THE MISSING LINK¬†RELATIONSHIP.

ODC

Welcome to 2012!!!

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Hello Family!!

We are working on our new schedule and format for the new year.  Our goal is to begin posting this week and give you 3-5 new post each week!! Be on the lookout for more on marriage, family, parenting, love, dating, education, breastfeeding, healthing eating, fitness, running half=marathons, lifting weights, confronting crazy family members and more!!

ODC

P.S. We will also post schedule times weekly where we will be live on here ,Facebook and Twitter to discuss any direct questions you have for us both.  2012 is the year of new and higher direction. 

Feel free to send any question or subjects you would like discussed and HOLD ON!!